View Full Version : Ultimatum- girlfriend or marijuana??
is smokin green really worth it if you lose tha one you love. I've been contimplatin this foe a while kuz mygirl does't like tha way im livin she says. I cant live without her buh i dun wan to quit. I kno what i have to do. what would ya do in this situation.
bowlingforcindy
08-10-2004, 23:49
try to cut down, i loved doin pills so much i was doin em all time but then a time came when i was bout to fail college and loose old n better m8s, n all that i got outa pills was a short term fun but depression which was constant. if you have a concios then you must be feeling sorry for her cause she wants u to quit but u want to carry on. maybe she just needs some reassurance that if you wanted you could stop but dont do that just cut down to proe her wrong, then slap her
adultswim
09-10-2004, 01:17
i wasin a simualr situation wiht my mom she wants me to quit and if i i dont ill be sent to Kansas to live wiht my grandparents. so i made a deal with her and now i can smoke pot as long as im successful at schooling, so let your gf know that you are capeable of smoking and bieng succsseful and if she doesnt understand you she might not be the right person for you
she dun mind that i blaze it's jus i blazeacouple timesa day on most days. buh i dun kare no more,wechiefed tha other nite n she forgot about it.
If you truly love her and can't live without her I would try to find some middle ground. True love is hard to find. Nothing is worse then losing that...
nosociety
17-10-2004, 20:21
Pot is amazing but belive me its not worth losing someone over. Try talking it out with her and if she will not comprimise then id say choose her.
FrankenChrist
26-10-2004, 20:00
Try to find the middle ground.
But if you have to choose.
love > whatever drug
Drugs you can buy, which will make you high for a moment in life.
Or someone you want to spend your life with.
Your choice.
discobloodbath
13-11-2004, 06:51
good point FrankenChrist
P!MPJU!C3
14-11-2004, 19:31
May want 2 explain 2 her what the nature iz of ur use. As everyone knows here many r ignorant on the use of drugs, especially juan(weed)(<-new word I picked up in France.)
Explain 2 her that smokin isnt bad its a way of relaxing. Not that u cant relax without ur joint, (If u really cant relax without it dont tell her) but it just takes the edge off.
WhiteRyan
14-11-2004, 21:49
This is just my opinion. Screw that man, Ive had girls try to make me change my lifestyle. Im not down with that, to hard headed. Everytime a girl try's to change me I boot her ass out the door. Compromise is not my greateast quality. I say be who you are dude.
P!MPJU!C3
15-11-2004, 19:19
U cant have a reltionship if u dont compromise and sacrificy. But if u love someone this is something natural so ull give it up. u just havent met a girl like that Ryan.
Dont worry Ryan, Im a fuckin hypocrite!!!
P!MPJU!C3
Yeah, that's what my ex was pissed about too. She didn't like the fact that I smoked weed in high school...so I quit for her...then a few years later, I was being honest and told her I was doing coke and that's when she broke up with me.
You have to decide. What do you love more? Pot or your girl? I totally understand where both of you are coming from, but if she's anything like the love of my life. She feels betrayed.
We broke up and 3 months later, I still regret everything. I'm slowly trying to win her back. Seriously, we're meant for each other. BUT, I have to work on my drug issues.
You should do the same. Try cutting down to once a week, and talk to her about that. At the end, it's up to you.
Ask her what it is that she does not like about your pot smoking.
Is it the health concerns that upset her ?
does she drink coffee on a daily basis ?
I would do some good research on the net and get facts facts facts. And then sit down with her and discuss your next move.
Good luck.
Stingray_313
06-02-2005, 18:43
Heres my 2 cents:
A bag of weed costs 20$
A good girlfriend is priceless
You decide.
In the past I have had countless number of girls try to change me in one way or another...... in the end, It has always got to be your choice whatever you do...
If a girl makes you change TOO much, you will end up resenting her a few years down the line and that will cause big problems..
take time out and make your OWN mind up..
one word of advice... If your gonna do some big thinking, don't be stoned when you do it...
best of luck mate
it's been like 5 months since i asked this question and i made up my mind, ima be high till i die n if you kant live with that then move on. i believe there is one person for everyone and when you cant get that person anymore then (dont mean to sound like a womanizer) every female is either a bitch or a hoe, and you just go from one to another. but not all females are like that just where im from. All the beautiful ladies keep it realEdited by: pancho
paulywould
12-02-2005, 21:28
I had a girlfreind go apeshit cause she found out I did coke a few times. I stopped. A few months later we broke up. A few months after that I saw her at a club and she had turned into a coke-whore. Go figure!
speedqueen
25-02-2005, 02:06
You choose whichever you love more the drug or the partner...simple!
If you stopped smoking for her you'd only end up hating her for it imho
Patrick131
25-02-2005, 02:57
i've been in a similar situation before and the only advice i can give is if you do quit, make sure that you are doing it for you. make sure it is what you want. she will respect you in the end even if she isn't happy with the choice that you make.
oh, and don't lie to her. i lost a really nice girl due to lying all the time. she said that i should have been honest up front with her and things probably would have worked out. oh well, that was a long time ago. i told her i quit and i continued smoking for about a year and then some guy that liked her told her "oh yeah, he smokes all the time" and i was busted. good luck
Patrick
Toxicity
26-02-2005, 04:29
I'm in this situation right now... I'm still not sure what to do, my
girlfriend know's about some of the bad trips I had, and now all she
thinks of when she hears the word "drugs," is bad trips, dieing, and
death. Oh well, what can you do.
Women often will say certain thing in order to get you to do what they want. She wants you to quit? Don't, that gives her the control of the relationship. However if you really want to keep this girl heres what I would recomend:
One day when you'r NOT high sit down with her and talk about the issue. Tell her that you don't see why you can't smoke some pot and be with her. She will respond with some BS about how she doesn't like the way your living. Tell her that you are NOT going to quit completely but for her and only her you are willing to cut down.
By doing this she thinks she's won, your willing to do something for her that you don't want to do. In reality you the winner, you get to keep your girl, she's happy with you, and you can still smoke pot every once in a while. Another thing if you smoke less frequently thats money you save, money to take her out with and make her relize that you are really good to her (This also may mean you get some pussy more often)http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/smileys/smiley2.gif
paulywould
26-02-2005, 22:27
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Than you get into a control issue if she thinks you are cutting down for her, because of her. You are doing everything she tells you to do. From my experience, women like a man who can make those decisions by himself. I think it would be better if, when you're not high, you gave a few reasons why are WANT to cut down. Say you think clearer, work better, save money, whatever and YOU decided you are going to cut down, not quit (unless you want to) and you hope she can appreciate that because that's what YOU want.
You maintain control over your actions becauseYOU made the decision. She will respect you because you can make up your own mind and she will be happy because it coincides with something she feels is important .
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William_Again
03-03-2005, 23:05
this is so simple (in my mind)...if you love the person you will quit,
it will be hard, but having been in love myself, I can say there really
is nothing like it.
man listening to all of you talk, really makes me think back to what i lost. Man pot or any other drug is not worth love. i lost the love of my life to pills and heroin and i think about her everyday and its been almost 6 months since she left. I only wish i never got addicted to pills or opiates. Sometimes i think to myself if i will ever meet someone like her again. If i could take back time, i would change everything. The 2 years of love i had with her was worth so much more than the 1 year of pills and getting fucked up. What i got from doing drugs was lsoing the love of my life, hurting my whole family, almost 10 felony convictions, and some jail time. HOLD ON TO HER MAN!!
i feel you though, i know what you going through, try to compromise but the best thing is communication...always talk to her and dont lie, good luck!!
billbong
27-03-2005, 12:59
Try and find middle ground. I think she only want's you to stop because she worries about you. A rediculous % of people have mental health problems, and as ganja is getting stronger it's getting more and more linked to mental health issue's. But if that isn't a problem for you just try and prove it to her.
honestly man. This is just my opinion of course, but fuck a bitch. Do what you gotta do and what you want to do. Remember look what they put us in from the begginning of time. Eve picked that damn apple and gave it to Adam. If it meant weed or the G is gone. Then that bitch just has to go out the door.