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Ok recently I have had an extreamly bad time and need some help. For some of you that I know on there forum here your were all probably wondering where I have been in awhile and my explaintion is this:
5 weeks ago my father passed away, he was very young(early 50's) of a cancerous tumor in his stomach.
For thepast five months the doctors kept telling him that the pain was a ulcer. Finely the pain was so tremedous that he passed out on the floor of his home and was rushed to the hospital. After a lot of testing the doctors said that he was going to make a full recovery so the segusted moving him to another hospital. This is where the doctors decided to give a second opinion and go a little further with the test and had descovered the tumor.
After alot of bullshit and testing and an operation he went from making a full recovery to dying it a time period of 3 1/2 weeks. *Fucking Doctors*
(sorry a little bitter about the doctors 'cause things could have been a lot better if they listend to my father 5 months ago)
Anyways this is where I want to hear some of your opinions
After the funeral I kept myself busy working 7 days a week for 3 weeks straight. Not really thinking about much. Last week I finely had 2 days off, by myself, and got to thinking about my father. The last thing I remember was cooking food for my girlfriend because she was comming home soon.then IBLACKED OUT.
Keep in mind I had not been drinking, nor has there been any drugs for at least a month, and the last drug I did was MDMA.
A day and a half later I came to in the hospital, and the only thing the doctors could tell me is that I need a "Urgent psych. assessment"
and on the form that they gave me to book an appointment it say:
Attention Physicians: Possible temp. Psychosis Greiving lost family member
Anyways very scary stuff.
Has anyone been through this or can anyone give me some advice because I am scared out of my fucking mind and Im not to sure what to think.Edited by: Cure20
Solidly-here
05-11-2005, 04:53
Gee, you only Blacked-out once?
A person works 7 days a week (and intensely) for 3 weeks. If this person does not usually do this, he could be pretty tired and run down.
Add to that, the death of a close relative. If this was me, I would be surprised if I didn't pass out at least once.
The way I see this issue is: If you had blacked out several times, youwould see an on-going problem. BUT, because it only happened once, it's just a fluke.
If I was the Doctor at the Hospital, I would not have sent you through $10,000 of medical tests. I would have thought that you have been pushed far past your endurance (mental and physical), and would refer you to a counselor to make sure that you do not slip into a Depression over your Dad's death.
Please do not expect that your body will perform perfectly ALL of the time. Give yourself permission to fall-apart ONCE (especially when the shit is hitting the fan). Don't worry, be happy.
TheLight01
05-11-2005, 05:05
I dont have experience but your story clearly indicates you have been pushin it, didn't take time to deal with all that was happening, and man that is a lot!
No way you can push this away, you need to deal with it or give it a place and i wish you strenght and wisdom.http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif
sands of time
05-11-2005, 05:50
From what you have said, I would definately agree with solidly-here. I have had experiences where I feel very burned out from working to much and than I have a day off. During this day off I feel lathergic and drained, even more so than when I was working. Standing up causes head rushs and light headedness. Sometimes the light headedness gets so powerful that I have to quickly sit down and let it pass. Sometimes I would bet that if I did not sit down, I would indeed pass out.
The death of your father would cause quite a bit of depression, and there would be a typical change in the levels of some neurological chemicals. This could potentialy make you more prone to passing out during that time period. The brain is a very dynamic peice of work, and it can be very unpredictable.
I'm not saying that you should ignore what happened, because you have to look out for yourself, but I don't think you should loose any sleep over this. Just let the doctor know what happened so he can keep that in mind. If more symptoms emerge, than the doctor may be able to peice the puzzle together and figure out if you have something major.
Ok recently I have had an extreamly bad time and
need some help. For some of you that I know on there forum here your
were all probably wondering where I have been in awhile and my
explaintion is this:
5 weeks ago my father passed away, he was very young(early 50's) of a cancerous tumor in his stomach.
For thepast five months the doctors kept telling him
that the pain was a ulcer. Finely the pain was so tremedous that he
passed out on the floor of his home and was rushed to the hospital.
After a lot of testing the doctors said that he was going to make a
full recovery so the segusted moving him to another hospital. This is
where the doctors decided to give a second opinion and go a little
further with the test and had descovered the tumor.
After alot of bullshit and testing and an operation he went from
making a full recovery to dying it a time period of 3 1/2 weeks.
*Fucking Doctors*
(sorry a little bitter about the doctors 'cause things could have been a lot better if they listend to my father 5 months ago)
Anyways this is where I want to hear some of your opinions
After the funeral I kept myself busy working 7 days a week for 3
weeks straight. Not really thinking about much. Last week I finely had
2 days off, by myself, and got to thinking about my father. The last
thing I remember was cooking food for my girlfriend because she was
comming home soon.then IBLACKED OUT.
Keep in mind I had not been drinking, nor has there been any drugs for at least a month, and the last drug I did was MDMA.
A day and a half later I came to in the hospital, and the only thing
the doctors could tell me is that I need a "Urgent psych. assessment"
and on the form that they gave me to book an appointment it say:
Attention Physicians: Possible temp. Psychosis Greiving lost family member
Anyways very scary stuff.
Has anyone been through this or can anyone give me some advice because I am scared out of my fucking mind and Im not to sure what to think.
everything everyone else said.. but sorry but im curious as to what
happened during the blackout period? did u ask anyone? cause im
curious... ive had moments where ive dont something and had no memory
of what i had done... im curious cause this has always interested me
when someone does something unknowningly...
crazy stuff man... thats insane... glad your ok tho
*** edit also.. um the name of the topic.. mind if i ask what it means?
Edited by: Loser
Nature Boy
05-11-2005, 16:55
Take some time off. See another doctor for a second opinion. Try to relax.
Any doctor that would recommend psychiatric analysis over what happened to you is clearly out of his depth.Edited by: nature_boy_liam
You are grieving, you have had an extremely short time to come to terms with a (devastating)diagnosis, deterioration of your fathers condition and his death.You have been pushing yourself to the limit physically, mentally + emotionally.
It's well recognised that trauma can induce amnesia/dissociative states. The idea that you need urgent psychiatric assessment (particularly as you are now clearly in possession of insight into your situation) shows a lack of understanding by the medics involved. These symptoms are only a problem if they continue and become a problem for you/your family/loved ones. That is, if your reaction becomes maladjusted.
Have you talked to people about your state during these missing hours? Have you asked to see a copy of your medical notes? Have you asked your doctors WHY they feel a psych assessment is necessary?
The fact that you have insight into this period of blackout, and the fact that you have identified triggers for it occurring, and the fact that you are worried about the ramifications of it occurring are all suggestive of something that is unlikely to be an ongoing problem.
Talk to someone more sympathetic about your symptoms. For anyone who works in grief counselling what you're describing isn't all that unusual, and they will be able to help you find ways to manage your grief.
Best wishes X
You need a second, and perhaps third, opinion from an outside source; a
doctor outside the circle of your current medical community.
Also, contact a lawyer about what happened to your father. The initial
consultation should be free so don't fall for it when they want to bill you
for the first session, just leave.
The hospital might just be setting you up to look like a nut-case in the
event that you might decide to sue them for incompetence over what
happened with your father.
It could be used as a defense in any claim you decide to make againt
them.
It certainly wouldn't look good for you, as someone from a psych ward,
to start make claims and pressing charges.
Ok.
Thank you everyone for your replies.
LOSER:
I was normal I guess. I was talking to the doctors about my father, I was eating, drinking, getting up to go to the bathroom. Talk to my girlfriend on the phone. Telling her I love her. Just anything that I would do normally. But I cant remember anything.
said:
Anyways this is where I want to hear some of your opinions
After the funeral I kept myself busy working 7 days a week for 3 weeks straight. Not really thinking about much. Last week I finely had 2 days off, by myself, and got to thinking about my father. The last thing I remember was cooking food for my girlfriend because she was comming home soon.then IBLACKED OUT.
Yikes dude! It sounds like everything most everyone who has replied here is right on. You flat out wore yourself out instead of facing the facts. That's okay though, everyone has a coping mechanism and whatever works for that person is good for them, um, as long as it doesn't kill them. Or end them up in the hospital. Or being evaled by a psyche professional.
It sounds to me like you were diagnosed with being pretty much normal. I don't know how you feel about religion and all that but getting down on your knees and praying and crying it all out can't hurt much. An old pastor said that he would "get down into the carpet," and pray. Tell God how you really feel. Tell your dad how you really feel. He's probably just chillin somewhere nearby anyways because he can't stand to see you hurting so much. Tell him the stuff that you wanted to tell him before he went, if you've got any of that going on.
I wish you well and good luck with the psyche docs. I had to visit one when I divorced my wife. It was rather easy, as long as you answer everything honestly. I was told that I have had a lot of emotional loss that I had pretty much never dealt with in an open way but I seemed to have adapted quite well to the trauma of the loss and the only recommendation would be for me to get some counseling in dealing with that loss. Maybe some day I'll open up and share my story with everyone. Till next time, blessings Cure20.
Wow. Thanks for everything from everyone. I didn't think I was going to get this much support. I have read all of the replies carefully and agree with every single on of you but it sometime is eaiser reading an outside opinion the having a sympathetic hand or voice saying everything is going to be all right because sometime that feels like ridiculement.
Ounce again I thank you all and am looking forward to getting this doctor stuff over with. I will keep everyone posted on what happens.
Solidly-here
06-11-2005, 09:18
Well, Cure20, I say this to you with compassion: "everything is going to be all right."
I am solidly here for you, and so are TheLight, sands of time, and the rest of us. Peace.